Do we ever miss opportunities because they don’t come in the form we expect them to?
Because they don’t come in the time, the way, all wrapped up the way we wish them to?
I do believe in second chances. Mostly. But second chances aren’t the same as first chances are they? Once something has happened there’s no way to quite recapture what that something was. From one minute to the next, one breath to the next, we’ve already moved on. We are different. Time has moved us on our way.
That’s not to say that what was broken can’t be repaired, what was lost, found. But it will be different because we are different.
Will the repaired be less than what it was new? Maybe. But maybe it will be stronger. Will it be less valuable or more valuable? Depends on our view of it. And the value we put on it.
It is interesting, the value people do or don’t put on friendships. The people that insist on trying to keep things the same, even after a friendship has irretrievably been broken. It can never be the same because the time, the people, it’s all different, all has changed. That is only a bad thing if we allow it to be. It could just as easy be a good thing if we choose to look at it that way. Or take the opportunity to make it a good thing. That doesn’t mean we can ever have things the same as they were. It’s all about our choice of how we choose to look at it and choose to do about it. The opportunity we choose to take and the one we don’t.
As some of my recent entries have talked about, as well as Maggie Stiefvater’s comments, some of the most meaningful things have come in the littlest gestures that might seem insignificant or inconsequential. But have turned out to be opportunity that would have been lost. To be a better person. To make someone else’s day a bit brighter even if ours seems dim and uninteresting. To grow a bit more into the person we are meant to be.
I wish you this day, whether on the giving or receiving end of opportunity, to open your eyes to the possibilities that surround you each day. May you see the opportunity that surrounds you each and every minute. To do better. To be better.